At some point we all feel that it is high time we change the bad habits or habits that no longer align with the direction of our progress and betterment. But habits do not change overnight. For us to work on it we need to have a shift in “Mindset”.
We all have different mindsets , some of us have a growth mindset on intelligence and fixed mindset on personality or vice versa. Mindset is nothing but a powerful belief that is formed in your mind and like your change your mind on small things like cancelling your plan to go out and rest instead , you can always change your mind on some essential patterns that you follow daily for a positive and highly energetic soul building.
1. No Phone Morning Mindset...
You brain is a circuit of thoughts , it registers the first thing you see in the morning and connects the dots all day. The mood you carry for the first half-hour after you wake up energizes or dooms your day at different levels. It reflects so much in everything you do. So make sure your precious first hour is at heartsease.
My personal experience of not looking at my phone at least an hour after I wake up has brought me phenomenal personality changes. I have shifted my mindset to not look at my phone in the morning and believe me that is one of the best decisions I have ever taken towards a digital detox and digital minimalism.
2.Embrace Your Body Mindset. You are not flawed.
Own your magic. Study the science of your body and take full control of very fiber that you are made up of. You are perceived in “n number of different ways to n number of people around”.It is not necessary that your negative perception about your own body is also how others perceive you. Do not set standards for yourself by comparing yourself to others. But you should definitely work towards gaining better strength and health by recharging your body , give your body what it needs and take away what it does not.
Have you ever seen the most powerful and impactful people in history ever showed an insecurity about their looks and have your heard anyone talking about their body instead of their achievements?That is because these powerful people own their magic , embrace their body and trust they are not flawed but are made unique to look a certain way and thats perfectly alright. Always remember "confidence" is your best ootd (Outfit Of The Day) and "smile" is your best make up.
3. Tomorrow is unpredictable Mindset.
Nobody in the world can ever predict what will happen tomorrow. It might sound pretty cliche when we say “live in the moment” or ‘live everyday like it is your last day”. But have you ever got to a point where I have wasted so many years worrying about things that are immaterial to me right now or delayed working on something that you wanted to , just because you have 3 to 4 more decades of life in hand?. We always count the days to come , but fail to see the days that are gone and will never come back.
Instilling an attitude of doing 3 things everyday that you want to do and doing it right away without excuses will increase your will power , adjust your level of procrastination , feed your brain with contentment. Because you never know about tomorrow , if you want to do it , at least leap from "thoughts" to small set of "actions" right today.
4. Friendships Vs Expectations Mindset.
We all have friends , some just friends , some good friends and some best friends. We have different expectations from different set of friends. If you expect the same from all three sets you will end up getting disappointed. And especially when you expect things in silence and wait for the magic to happen. You have to voice out expectations and draw a fine line. With best friends, we always want may be a little less than equal reciprocation and we definitely get disappointed if that does not happen , You can voice out your opinion and hurt to your best friend.
It is definitely different when you have some extreme expectations , you will have to introspect if you are asking for too much. For some friends , the reciprocation is not too important and it should not be for you as well. We all come from different backgrounds and surroundings , so somebody will do something only if they want to do , not just because you want them to do. So shift your mindset to "let me do my thing and let others do their thing" , but help each other when required. When you keep it light you will never go into an un-enchanted mode of disappointment.
5. Flip the Script Mindset.
Filtering Thoughts : You magnify the negative aspects of a situation and filter out all of the positive ones. Instead flip it and just see only the positive aspects.
Personalizing: When something around you is unpleasant or something bad happens, you make it about yourself. Instead flip the thought and say it to yourself that not everything in this world is about you and happens only to you.
Catastrophizing: You automatically anticipate the worst. When you think about the worst that is going to happen all the time , You will attach every disappointing element to that thought and intensify your mood. Instead flip that thought and think about the best you can get out of any worst situation.
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Here is the First post of 2020. I will be pushing on more useful , mindful, inspirational , motivational and personality development content to the blog. I appreciate all those who read my blogs and write back to me. I just cannot thank enough for this support and my digitally growing family. For me this blog is more important than any other social media pages I own. I hope you guys will like today’s blog post. Below are the “ 5 Things To Leave Behind In 2020”.
1. Use of Plastic
The World is changing , one part of the world is working very hard to raise the globe temperatures, to multiply the forest fires and contaminate the ocean life. The other part is working towards a clean , non toxic and non life threatening practices to avoid using non biodegradable materials like plastic trying to balance and cool down the blazing global warming that can soon turn half of the planet to debris. Choose your side , Choose your future , Choose your future generations prosperity, Stop using plastic as much as you can. If you stop using it , they will stop making it.
2. Extreme Consumerism
Every day, each of us is bombarded with around 1,600 commercial messages. Most of them are extremely manipulative , they make us believe and build a perspective over a product that we may not actually need , but are attracted to its presentation.
Adopt conscious consumerism , accept the difference between need and want. Buy only those things that need at the moment or in the near future.
3. Not Practicing Mindfulness
But first , what is mindfulness ? . It is our ability to be fully present in the moment , with the person we are talking to , feeling the magical sounds of everyday chores , when your feet touches the ground every time it is important to reach to the magical bond of earthing , sensing your own deep breathes , listening to a conversation with an undivided attention , feeling your fingers when your typing on a laptop etc. All these things are minute , but makes a lot of difference in your overall personality , It creates an aura around yourself. That makes a unique difference and brings you closer to the universe. Practice mindfulness everyday.
4. Not Shutting Down
Yes , not shutting down habits that are not contributing to any betterment or progress , not shutting down self doubt , not shutting down negative thoughts , not shutting down useless criticism and judgements , not shutting down procrastination and not shutting down toxicity ( be it in you or be it in others).Step up to change these things and do a complete shutdown to reset and restart on a fresh note.
5. Taking Social Media Too Seriously.
Any platform is created to connect , socialize , network , share knowledge , inspire , learn , create and have fun. But definitely not to set standards or rules about how your life should be , not to compare , not to rage each other , not to abuse privacy , not to overwhelm , not to overuse , not to invite unsafe situations. Have you ever landed in a situation where you love some quotes , but afraid to share them because somebody might relate to it and make a fuss in their mind that it could be about them. Such is an impact at a personal level. I myself took a step back sometimes , just to make sure I am not hurting anybody. But , we all have to stop taking social media personally. If it is a mere fun , have fun. If it is business , promote and reach audiences. If it is art , create more coz the world needs it. If it is for inspiring self and others , work more towards inspiring and lighting up more mindsets.
Thank you so much for reading. I will see you guys in the next blog post soon. Wishing you all a very Happy and Prosperous New Year.!
I don't know how to start , I have taken a break from writing for few months now. I took this time to process myself , the changes , the monotony and the thrive for substantial content on this blog. Please come back here to read me always and point me the direction to write the life down in words .
1. Find Your Bulls Eye:
Let me break this down to you by exemplifying an incident in The Mahabharat. Arjuna was the most favorite all the students for Dronacharya when teaching the art of warfare, for when he was asked what can he see on the tree where Dronacharya placed a wooden bird to put his subjects at test , the rest had very trivial answers like a wooden bird , the tree and its branches. But Arjuna replied that he could only see the “eye of the bird”. this story gives perspective as to why Dronacharya thought there was no warrior quite like Arjuna. This reply is reflective of his abilities to streamline all his focus towards the goal.
Do not fail to separate your distractions from your goal on your path to achieving it. Know your targets and concentrate only on achieving it by putting your chaos that are pretty obvious aside.
2. Identify What You Want For Yourself.
By the time you are 30 not knowing what you want is a dangerous place to be. We need to know where to go to prepare ourselves to learn how to go. Identify what it is that you want at every step of your life. Sacrificing yourself to please others and stay in good books never works out. It will drain you over a period of time and will cost you your Mental Health and Peace. Say goodbye to limiting beliefs about life for it is limitless and you can get so much out of it.
3. Living The Moment.
Time is something you cannot reverse. The time that you might have spent regretting your past and the time you might have spent worrying about your future could be the most valuable time that you might have missed in that moment. The past and future cannot be controlled , but your present is something you can live the way you want right at the moment. Be present in the moment and live intentionally , observe small sounds , smells and sights around you. Stay content every moment , your brain releases happy hormones - endorphins, dopamine and serotonin whilst enjoying the small moments of happiness.
4. Stand Up For Yourself.
Nobody other than you can come to your rescue immediately when something affects you. You have to stand up for yourself just like you stand up for your friends or family in the need of the hour. Always think with both heart and mind. Your heart holds you emotional side whereas your brain balances you intellectual side. If you know you are being drained , taken advantage of , bullied , deceived or being hurt stand up for yourself and close the doors to any such activity. Standing up for yourself always does not mean you should react adversely to the situation or people , take adverse actions and reciprocate the same malicious behavior to the counterpart. Instead walk away , draw your lines , limit access unless you're physically or mentally harassed for which you actions can be stringent.
5. Do Not Fear Rejections.
Rejections are not failures. Rejections are not the result. Rejections are not the end of opportunities. Absorb rejections in every aspect of life and walk past. New doors open up , you will meet new people , you will come across new opportunities. Do not take rejections emotionally.
6. Stop Pretending To Be Someone else.
You must choose to stand out rather than fitting in. Do not pretend to be someone else to please the crowd. The real you is something your are made up of that makes you unique and desirable. Do not lose yourself in the pursuit of making others happy and getting a validation that might not last long, Coz the impressions crack and opinions change. Let them be based on your true , original and irresistible personality.
7. Take Care Of Your Health.
In your late 20’s you are least bothered about some deficiencies that you body is carrying quite for some time. But when the reality hits , it hits harder. The effect one one issue in your body could carry on to others and can lead to unsolvable complications. Realize this fact at very early stages and do not brush of any long lasting health issues. Coz Health may not specifically be Wealth but it sure has a key role in the smooth functioning of your life.
8. Reset Your Goals.
If you no longer connect with ‘why’ you are doing what you are doing, It is time to reset your goals. For example , when I started this blog I wanted to write only about fashion and affordable choices just like my counterparts at that time. But as my journey progressed I have identified myself with a multitude of substantial writing about life , positivity , goals , success , motivation , mental health , personality development and Minimalism. In particular, I have flipped my blog completely into a lifestyle blog, which I thoroughly enjoy writing now. I have reset my goals. And if you think it's probably time to reset yours , please do.
9. Stay Close to numbers.
By that I mean by now you should have learnt to balance your financial goals , be very good with what numbers are coming in and what numbers are going out - Your earnings and Your Spendings. Set a goal to retire early in your life. If your mathematics is on the tip of the tongue at every step , you will fare well in your finances. Discuss with your partner , sketch out a monthly expenditure journal. Wealth is not how much you spend , It is how your grow , find a purpose, strike a balance and find your ground.
10. Be Unapologetically You.
If you are a people pleaser , it is probably time you shed off that personality and stop pleasing others , rather work on your identity that you might have buried deep inside.
If you have insecurities , it is probably time you let them go. You cannot take control of a situation you can only control your reaction.
Stop comparing yourself with others, we are made to be unique , not to be like each other.
Stop making it all about yourself. This very thought of what others think about you will never let you live your life the way you want to. It is a busy world and everyone is probably dealing with their own battles. Live your life and let others live theirs.
Avoid small talk. Build your surrounds , attract the ones with similar personalities , discuss ideas not people , work on projects together , pat each others back , be a person to whom they can come back to and lend a shoulder , avoid any negative talk and do not judge a person , instead judge the situation. Empathize but do not let anything over power you.
Just as the title of this post , I would like to reintroduce myself. It is June month and it has been 5 years I have started blogging. I must say , this is the one of the best decisions I took. But due course there are lots of things and perspectives that have changed. I have changed , habits have changed , endurance has changed and energy has changed. Everything has changed in the right direction striking the balance in my life. Below few points will tell you why I have started blogging and what has changed?....
1. Why I have started blogging?
I have started blogging to pen down my ideas and opinions about fashion , travel and lifestyle. I wanted to create a journal of experimental and accessible fashion . Add my own perspective to fashion and personal style. And a track of lifestyle traits and a travel diary.
2. What Has Changed?
My perspective about fashion and lifestyle has changed. My sole purpose of blogging has changed. I wanted to create a space that could address the day -to -day concerns and lifestyle management. I have started to become a conscious consumer of fashion and other goods. And I have practiced time management only to put my best into this blog and provide quality content to my readers talking about more real world problems than fashion and lifestyle perks.
3. Minimalism and Aesthetics.
Whenever I post a picture , I make sure it tells a story. I believe when you watch a picture it works like a therapy. I made sure pictures are totally not just about my face or a perfect outfit or accessories , but about the essence of the surroundings , the weather and the mood of the picture. I try to create mood grams on my Instagram to create a personal aesthetic. This has given me an art perspective.
Minimalism has become an essential part of me now. I have started to curate my life with what adds value to my life and discard what is causing the exertion or parts of my life and things that do not serve a purpose or add a value. I started to simplify my house , my blog , my closet and my life.
4. Personal Style.
My personal style has evolved a lot , ever since I started to feel comfortable in my own skin , I have started to listen to my own body. I completely shut down other's perspectives or opinions on how I look or what i should do to look more beautiful , how to look tall and how to make my eyes look big. These are the opinions of people , not mine. I have embraced myself with all the power , confidence and love. I do not have to wear anything uncomfortable to look tall. I do not have to hoard a lot of eye make up to make my eyes look big. Instead I want to look like myself , hence I have embraced a natural and less chemical makeup routine and natural eye make up ( sometimes I skip eye makeup all together). This me is the real me and I feel rewarded to have found the right balance in the world of superficiality and not get carried away.
5. I am not here to influence ( I am not an influencer).
Somewhere in between the journey of calling myself fashion influencer , I felt this word is so intimidating. I would not want to influence anybody. I want to create a stream that can help people learn , adapt and take advantage of. Above all , not just get influenced by what I write but to have their own voice and word for everything. Things do not work the same for everybody , we all pick up bits and pieces from everywhere and build our life. I only wanted to be that small bits and pieces.
Thanks a lot dear all those who are a part of my 5 years of blogging Journey. I grew a lot and I have learnt a lot and got more wiser and balanced in life. I am grateful for all the response I got. I hope you guys enjoyed today's blogpost.
The Chic Iconic......
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Yes Clothes , they are the next big thing in a girl's life. A static problem that surrounds every girl and a woman in almost every aspect. So today's article is about "How to dress effectively" in 5 Steps. I have been in this situation several times when I had to get ready for a party or a meeting or meet a friend for a coffee or lunch - I pulled up everything in the wardrobe and felt like I have nothing to wear. Whereas in reality I have so many things to wear , but how functional and practical am I with my shopping choices and organizational skills with my wardrobe. Here is how I broke it down for everybody who have had the same feeling.
1. Accept Yourself
No , we are not perfect. We need to learn to co-exist with our flaws and camouflage them. Do not compare with something unrealistic and play with your wardrobe choices. You need to exactly learn your body type and what works for you. For example if you have well toned legs , but not so perfect waist or shoulder, play it down . Try mini skirts or mini gowns that exposes your legs but camouflages the flaws.
2. Play bright colors
Even some basics in bright colors would do the job sometimes. Make some intuitive choices when picking outfits , do not think too much. Trust some colors like neon greens and neon pinks , they create a statement look irrespective of the price you put on the outfit. You can even wear a neon over sized shirt and walk into a party.
3. Capsule Wardrobes
Create capsule wardrobes for various purposes or just by season. Group at least 30 pieces in your wardrobe into one clothing rack and pair them up with multiple separates over and over. In the process try not to reach out beyond your capsule wardrobe. For example , when you have to rush for work and you do not find the right outfit , it is kind of frustrating and stalls your thinking creating a delay. At times like this capsule wardrobes play an important role . Create one for your work wear.
4. Skin show mystery
This is something like a taboo that we do not want to talk about , but it consciously exists within us. The rules of skin show are very simple. Do not go overboard , looking and feeling attractive is not based on how naked you are. "One skin at a time" rule is always the best one to choose. For example - when you expose the neck and shoulder , Hide your legs (choose a long gown). A little bit of mystery is always a nice touch.
5. Comfort First
Do not die for extreme fashion choices. What ever you wear should be loved by your body and accepted by your skin. Otherwise you are going to end up sulking all day. Always make it work for you , choose the right sizes and even over sized. When you make sure about the comfort level , you get to know your personal style very well. Fashion changes drastically , but you need to build your personal style to make it look unique. Your comfort is your god in your fashion.
I hope this piece of writing is helpful for some of you. Please do write to me about it. I will soon catch up with another piece of content. Until then keep reading THE CHIC ICONIC..
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Having a Bad Day at work , having a bad fight or having a disappointment when least expected can be very overpowering on us. Sometimes it might feel like everything is falling apart and we sink deeper into frustrations. At times like these it is important to put a check on how you are feeling and how you are handling them. Negative thoughts stay long and interfere with our priorities , health and routine. Below are some life hacks to help you avoid getting into that never ending negative arena. Keep reminding these 5 things on a daily basis to travel better through the negativity that surfaces in everyday life.
1. Identify What Truly Matters.
An unexpected change of plans may not kill you. Your clogged sink is not the end of the world. Your colleague , manager or a friend not smiling back or not answering your calls is not going to affect you. Next time you scratch your head over these petty things , remember that these things do not matter. Ask yourself about what really matters.
2. You Cannot Control Certain Events.
Now you cannot control a climatic change or a government shutdown. Realize this point , we cannot control many things and people in our lives. You just have to stop pushing and let it go for the betterment of everything.
3. You Are enough.
I am not tall enough , I am not pretty enough or I am not smart enough or strong enough. These words are really bad for what you feed your mind with. Say 'You are enough'. And stop limiting your beliefs about yourself.
4. Your Worse Feelings Have An Expiry Date .
Whatever the terrible feeling that you currently have will die down and in the later part of your life , it would not matter to you. You will hurt people and other people will hurt you. Remember that human beings are imperfect. But do not ignore your feelings , process through them completely and remind yourself that your feelings will not kill you and it is going to be ok.
5. Everything Is A Phase.
When you are in difficult times , always say this to yourself " Everything is a phase and it will pass". Remember the Shakespeare 's poem that - All the world's a Stage and All the men and women are merely players. Our life is like a movie , phase after phase & scene after scene. And it will not stay stagnant at one point , because we travel with time and time is not a constant and so is our difficulty.
Thanks a lot for reading today's blog post. One of the readers has requested me to write a blog post about how to stop leading a stressful life. I hope these five reminders would help and make you think that life is not as stressful as we see it. Its just like a flow of water and you should enjoy traveling through the flow.
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Not that it is going to be International Women's Day in a Couple of Days , But women should celebrate their strength and sisterhood everyday , So I wanted to put a boost-up blog post this time to make and feel you all empowered. There are so many assumptions about being a Independent woman. But in my opinion a woman is independent when she has a strong voice of her will , ideas and thoughts. Some body who has an opinion and strongly vocal about it when it comes to questioning her independence. Often people's understanding of what it is to be independent is quite surprising - changing your own car tyre , owning a car , getting to party on weekends with friends etc is considered Independence. The emotional and mental aspect of it is rarely included. So here are 5 personality traits to become a strong Independent woman of voice.
1. Embody Self - Confidence.
By far the most attractive thing about a woman is her self -confidence . Number one trait to be a strong independent woman. Know your strengths and play with them. Know your weaknesses and embrace them. You are complete set of positives and negatives, accept that truth. When somebody points at you in full respect about something they did not like in you or something that is hurtful accept it to mend your ways and say thanks to letting you know. Your self - confidence lies in how you handle your reaction to an event, May it be big or small. One of the highest personality traits and hard to train self . But draw a line for everything you consume emotionally.
2. Do not neglect the skills you acquired.
We all develop certain skills through our entire childhood and adulthood. Adore and hone your skills , do not neglect them. Being Independent and strong is trying to have your own flavor and recipe of character , which means trying to be unique. Our skills vary and every skill is a unique trait about yourself - like cooking , painting , financial management , perfect homemaking , amazing mathematical skills or perfect career orientation. Anything and everything that makes you you and not anybody else. Always have a unique factor , try building more if you can.
3. Be Anti - drama not Anti - Social.
Yes you heard me right. Women are stereo -typed to be drama queens. But most of the classy , strong , independent women we idolize are Anti - drama creating personalities. Not that I am trying to knock off the emotional side of it , but creating drama about everything we want or how we want things to be done is huge downside of a strong personality. Instead put your case down to discuss and open for opinions with your partner. Socialize with your friends without creating drama and do not put your mental balance at stake when you can actually sort things and work it out just by articulating them the right way.
4. Do not say n't Words.
How many times have you said can't , won't, shouldn't or any other negative contraction?. Stop saying that from today. When you say something like " I can't do this myself" , "I don't have the skills" you are pre-programming your brain to believe in a sentence that you have uttered in haste. Remember your brain is the greatest computer and it stores everything in the subconscious part of it. Instead say " How can I do this?". Always end your insecurity with a curious question , leave your brain to figure out the curiosity. This one step paves way to achieve your goals without any pull backs.
5. Be Assertive .
Again , this is one of the strong personality traits that prove you are a strong woman. So talking about being assertive , it is just a simple two key-word process - "yes or No" and knowing when to use them exactly. Let us take a scenario - You are invited to a party or a social gathering and you have to just answer the host with a "yes" or a "no". Instead most of us do this "we say 'yes' just because everybody else did , even when our priorities were different at that time" or "we say 'yes' with FOMO ( Fear of Missing out ) even when you have no mood to attend" or " we say 'no' even when we wanted to go enjoy the party just because one of your friends is not attending and she said no". So the thing here is not knowing what you want and putting other's priorities infront of you. Your 'Yes' or 'No' should be solely dependent on you. Know what you want and do what has to be done. Do not follow the herd.
So thats it for today's blogpost guys. I hope you all are little boosted up to build yourself a strong personality. Happy women's Day in Advance. I will see you all guys in this space very soon with another blogpost.
Till then , The Chic Iconic Signing off..........
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It takes a pinch of motivation , a handful of enthusiasm and a little bit of practice to garnish your daily routine to make it more effective , productive and self satisfying. The problem here is that we feel bad for procrastinating things and we spend more and more time feeling bad about it , doing nothing to make it better. Today in this post I am going to break down my complete 24 hour routine into steps - about what I do different time windows spacing my time out for different pieces of work in a typical day. So lets get started.
1. 7 AM -9 AM. My Morning Rituals.
Now I am not going to lie to you guys. I could not incorporate getting up early for most of my time , because I am a night owl. But the day I sensed how better , fresh and active my brain works when woke up early , I took it up as a challenge to switch to a early morning routine.
Once I wake up , I make sure that I do not reach out for my phone. I go straight to restroom ,freshen up , take bath and head to kitchen to prepare some breakfast. And yet not reach to my phone. I enjoy my breakfast quite mindfully , feeling my portions in the spoon , the sound , the smell , the warmth of my food. Believe me your body will thank you for this. Then I open my balcony door and stand for at least 5 -6 minutes , breathe in that fresh air and get some sunlight. This has become a form of meditation for me.
2. 9 AM - 11:00 AM . Work space Bound.
I work from home sometimes and I travel sometimes as a part of my job. When I work from home , I make sure I am all ready and fresh as though I am heading to my work place and not lazying around without taking bath or finishing up my breakfast. This took sometime for me to break that habit of just waking up late and reaching to the laptop , starting my work without a proper start to my morning routine. Now that I fixed it , I make sure I am at my home desk by 9:00. I make sure there are no distractions like TV or Music for the next 2 hours, I start with the toughest in my to do list and finish up in the next 2 hours. At 11:00 AM , I take a break - may be a small brisk walk with music in my ears or a visit to my balcony. I prepare my meals mostly probably the night before , If not I use this break time to prepare or pick something for me. I also use up this break time to get my Instagram posting done or any blog publishing that is scheduled to go live. I am very strict with how much time I spend on Instagram making sure I do not get carried away with swiping across all the feed and doing nothing. I typically spend 30 minutes in a day on this platform , You can set a timer for that on Instagram to restrict over usage.
3. 1 :00 PM to 5:00 PM . Second chunk of My work and a Little brain storming.
This piece after the lunch is very tricky. A little fatigue like feel visits your body and I do not resist that , A small nap at my desk on the chair for about 15 minutes gives me the boost to push through and work productively for the next few hours. I finish up the next high priority tasks during this time and I take breaks in between and research about a new thing everyday. It feels confident to stay educated and well versed about different things you are curious about. For example I love different cultures , books and art. Then switch back just as quick as possible without getting carried away. I also brain storm about various blog post ideas during this time and note them in my journal and I finalize the designs and textile work for "Pastels and Pink" label very effectively during these mid day breaks. The concept here is , you take breaks to read or browse through something that you are curious or passionate about. Well I am all passionate about my blog and Label , hence I manage these breaks perfectly to get the work done. Wind up my regular job tasks by 5:00 or 5:30 PM.
4. 6:00 PM to 8:30 PM. Evenings that matter.
If I am travelling then this time block might vary , but otherwise the common mistake that we commit here is after we are done with work , in the name of rest we go back to deep sleep. Now this is a major break in your routine , If you ask me , do not do that. You job isn't done just because your regular work hours are done. When you are done with your work and you come back home , take sometime to sit , make yourselves some tea or coffee or any drink of your choice , watch something to feel different and take the work stress off of your shoulders mindfully. Engage with your family , prepare some dinner and eat your dinner mindfully , not by watching TV. This makes a whole lot of difference to your body , Feel the food. Finish off your dinner as early as you can at your convenience.
5. 8:30 PM to 10:00 PM. Golden Hour of Conversation.
This time window is really important to me. Do not become too busy that you do not have time to spend with your loved ones. It is very very important that you strike a balance between personal and professional life. I use up this time to talk about how my day was , asking how his day was and if we have things to be scheduled or taken care of , We both take a note of that . I have started to journal my things as well. If I have a situation I talk it out and take it off my chest , So that I go clean the next day. A good conversation is a best healer and helps you stay focused. And yes after that we can call it a night.
So typically this is what my day and routine looks like. But yes , It took me so much time to get there and sometimes even now I struggle to keep up. But I do not want to be another procrastinator , be the reason for my own things not working out. I want to stand high in my eyes with all due respect for self and feel achieved. Hence I do keep up with my routine most of the times.
The idea behind this "Blog Post" was a request from one of the followers/muse on Instagram and You guys know how much I love converting your requests into blog posts.
I hope this helps &......The Chic Iconic signing off until next blog post.
First Off "Happy New Year" peeps. I hope you had an awesome 2018 and wish you will have even more amazing 2019. This year I wanted to start it all with love and relationships. The most asked about topic on my blog. "Relationship Goals". Now , I ain't guru in this topic neither am I a professional , But I am a constant learner and I apply all that I learn into my life. Nobody can be a better judge of your relationships other than you. So I was trying to be the better judge and a critic about relationship in my life. I will be talking about nurturing the relationship with potential partner - Husband/Boyfriend/Companion.
A relationship cannot survive on its own. It has to be nurtured constantly creating a mutual connection , a deep loving bond on constant basis. For that, it is very important that you do not take your partner for granted. Below are few tips that will help nurture your relationship with your partner when inculcated into your lifestyle.
1. Communicate Your Thoughts , Ideas and Feelings.
Always remember that you two are two different individuals and the other cannot decode what you are exactly feeling at this point without you communicating it or expressing it. Without a constant honest communication a relationship cannot be nurtured. The more you express or communicate the more closer you will get each time.
2. Support , Validation and Compliments.
These three components create a very strong bond between two individuals , sometimes may it be with friends. Support - emotional and mental support disposal whenever your partner needs it. Not everybody can handle stress all by themselves , they might need to vent it out. Lend your shoulder at these highly stressful times for your partner. Do not think that you should give them their space at emotional downtime , that is a hypothetical assumption. Your partner needs you at that time. Validation - When your partner does something special for you , validate it. It lifts each other up. Compliments - Who doesn't love compliments?. Compliments create a chemical reaction , they trigger the reward centers in your brain and release happy hormones especially from someone close to you.
3. Admitting Your Mistakes and Talking About Them.
In a relationship , all you need is acceptance. You should be able to accept your mistakes and your partner's mistakes. Accepting , talking about and letting go off your partner's mistakes will change or turn your relationship into a joyful one and that way you keep less baggage.
4. A Mutual Desire To Experiment.
It is quite important that this word "mutual" resonate in a relationship. You guys should be able to share a mutual desire of thinking outside the box. With the kind of brand and event commitments that I take , they interfere with our routine and we both have pledged to ourselves that we would break the routine whenever needed and go there get it full speed , get back to the routine and maintain the equilibrium. It is very important that you align your thoughts and actions with your partner's.
5. Love , Romance and Intimacy.
They are like the pillars in a relationship. There has to be a desire to be together as a couple. Do not take these things for granted. Try to keep the spark fresh every time. Love your partner with some more every time. Do not let our lifestyle or work routine saturate the bond. You need to always find ways to rekindle your relationship. Surprise each other at very least expected times.
Alright peeps , that is the content for the start of 2019. I am gearing up for more new ones . Let us all hope that 2019 will be a power packed and love filled year for you guys and for me. Thanks for reading me here.
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December , by itself feels so special to everyone. Reminds us the summation of overwhelm we went past the whole year. The success , the downfalls , work graph , productivity and how much we changed ourselves in the due course. This month is so special to me , since its my birthday month as well as anniversary month. So many tokens of love and gratitude for the wonderful people around me. Each year I strive so hard to grow as a person , keeping my happiness and self sufficiency as a main motive and try to come on par with the border line. Our lives are busy , but the question is what are we busy about?. We either have to multitask or finish one thing at a time or be proactive and not procrastinate to manage our time in a day perfectly , and give time to friends and family , but not shut them down by this word called " busy ". So here is to the busy life - I want to change somethings about me the coming year and I promised my self to do that , which might be useful for some of you who can relate. So please keep reading until the end.
1. Work At My Own Pace.
In the world where 3 Cs are ruling ( Comparison , Criticism and Complaining ) , I want to stand still working at my own pace. In the world of creativity , comparison and competition started to rule the platforms that were in fact created to just share the work , connect with each other and thoroughly enjoy the process of creating. For me , It has always been creating aesthetically beautiful content and the content creation takes good amount of time. Hence I pace myself in synchronization with the effectiveness of how much my brain can create and not how fast the rest of the world is running , perhaps I do not want to race. I want to enjoy the journey of creating and only at my own pace.
2. Recycle and Re purpose.
It took generations to make this world a better , comfortable and environmentally healthy place to live upon. Considering the current situation of global warming , it is going to take twice the number of generations to make it a happy ,healthy world to live ,again. You must be thinking , what is my part in polluting earth?. " The Consumption ". Consumption more than sufficiency. For example , the kind of industrial waste that is polluting our waters and air from the world of "fast fashion" . The self made formula of not repeating the clothes that are worn once or twice which end up in dump yards and also creating zero value for the money you spent on them. I have started to implement recycling and re-purposing all the articles and clothes I have , instead for contributing my part in making earth a massive polluted ball to live in.
3. Adapting to Minimalism.
Remembering things like "Less is More" or "Simple is Beautiful". Starting to live with less might be a drastic shift in lifestyle. I want to take this shift slow and sustainable. Minimalism can mean different to different people. For me , a lifestyle change for peace , clutter less and being intentional with what I allow into my life. I have been a shopaholic and a hoarder for new and exciting stuff. But soon I have realized the beauty of living with more of what matters and less of what doesn't. My first step towards minimalism would be creating seasonal capsule wardrobes with what all I have. I will soon start a series on capsule wardrobes.
4. Travel For Personal Development.
I have always loved to visit new places , explore new people and the kind of living . For me travelling is moving and observing - I would even travel to a close by country side village and shop in farmers markets , visit horse stables , buy some homemade jams , smells so local coffee . Travelling gives confidence . Confidence of a successful exploration , a fresh mind set and the way you see and adapt to new circumstances. I have realized travelling has helped me learn more about myself . It also made me realize how small and insignificant we are in this mighty world where there are much bigger crisis when compared to your problems. It has changed my personality and made me a self confident women who can do things her way not caring a pin about negativity and envy.
5. Write More or Create More to Connect More.
I have started this blog due to my extreme passion towards playing with words and story telling , structuring and building. So , I will write more and create more amazing content. Folks from my Instagram connect to me on a daily basis for what I have been writing and addressing . This has always motivated me to write more. For a small period of time in school I was into poetry. I am trying to revive my urge to start again. Along with that creating visually pleasing content has got me here and I am glad I have you all encouraging me everyday. I want grow old writing and creating .
Yes , You made it until the end of the blog post., pictures say less and the paragraphs say lot more about me and my work . Now , do'n't ask me my wardrobe details. I always wear my husbands over sized sweaters at home. Comfort over everything , I am sure most of you do that as well.
The Chic Iconic... Singing off until the next blog post.
This is Shrithi, founder of The Chic Iconic. I am a minimalist , aesthetic and a positivist by nature. Along side I am an optimist , I transfigure my ideas, thoughts and tips into beautiful fairy tale moments and blog posts.