No two people in this world are made the same and expecting the other person to think alike and reciprocate smoothly is a very tricky dream to achieve. But coexisting and mutually trying to resolve the compatibility issues is something we can do , with some insights into trying to understand the perspective where the issue has arised for the other person. Easy said than done , but trust me it took time for me understand that it is achievable and you can stay less affected by some of these which will sound pretty trivial after a couple of years.
So in this blogpost let me tell you 5 simple tips to resolve the conflict or compatibility issues with anyone in your life. Apply it to to your friend or partner or a room mate at a very broad perspective.
1. Do not lose your calm...
The very problem is we just lose calm whenever we hit a block of immediately unsolvable issues with our friends , colleagues , partners etc. But for a change try this , whenever you feel like the words/actions of others hit the wrong chord in your brain , shut that surging reaction that travels at a speed for light through your nerves and intercepts into words. Instead try to stay calm at the very moment and listen to what other person is saying , process that. The instant rage would worsen and leave no scope for a conscious communication. Or you can just leave the scene , take time and talk later. Sometimes this helps to reconcile with your own internal fight and come out balanced.
2. Do Not Negate Other Person's Perspective..
Just like you have your own side of the story , the other person also has his own justification to it. Rather than trying to pass a judgement about what is right and what is wrong , think about the perspectives. It is definitely not easy to step into other person's shoes and think , but when you do even for a short span you will find a piece of resentment that you might be applying from your side.
3. Compatibility Is Not a Baseline Requirement...
Compatibility is overrated , in a way that most of us make it the very own purpose and foundation of a relationship. No , compatibility is not a baseline requirement , instead love , respect for each others choices , empathy , care and conscious reciprocation is. You need to understand you both operate differently , you are wired differently. You cannot just ask the other person to change some things about themselves just because you want him/her to be relatively proportional to you. Respect each others personalities for their uniqueness , then jump on to a group activity about figuring out each others likes and dislikes. Reverse engineer your reciprocation to these likes and dislikes. Find a common ground.
4. Do Not React If It Is Not Necessary..
Not everything is your problem and you do not have to react unless it has effected you so much. We try to judge and pick up on so many things and worry too much about how the other person is not compatible just because he/she does things differently. Have you ever thought about this?. Staying unaffected by unnecessary and trivial things in life will keep both of you happy. There need not be so many things in common between two people , you will definitely find a few which should be enough. Learn to coexist with the uncommon things as well. Otherwise life is going to be very boring.
5. Communicate Your Expectations....
You have to express in pure words about what you are expecting or feeling at a particular point of time. Do not expect that the other person has some magical powers to interpret what you might be feeling without you saying it. The greatest advantage human beings have is that they can express in words. You have to be expressive even if you are an introvert . Do not raise your voice when doing so , express what you feel like how you feel. If your partner gets a hold of your feelings , the its a cake walk. You need to leave some lee way for the other person to understand and get used your expectations.
So that is all for this blogpost guys. I hope this is helpful in some way. These are some personal insights I have put together , but ofcourse everyone has their own way of tackling these issues.
Hope you enjoyed reading this blogpost. Until next Blog Post..
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This is Shrithi, founder of The Chic Iconic. I am a minimalist , aesthetic and a positivist by nature. Along side I am an optimist , I transfigure my ideas, thoughts and tips into beautiful fairy tale moments and blog posts.