At some point we all feel that it is high time we change the bad habits or habits that no longer align with the direction of our progress and betterment. But habits do not change overnight. For us to work on it we need to have a shift in “Mindset”.
We all have different mindsets , some of us have a growth mindset on intelligence and fixed mindset on personality or vice versa. Mindset is nothing but a powerful belief that is formed in your mind and like your change your mind on small things like cancelling your plan to go out and rest instead , you can always change your mind on some essential patterns that you follow daily for a positive and highly energetic soul building.
1. No Phone Morning Mindset...
You brain is a circuit of thoughts , it registers the first thing you see in the morning and connects the dots all day. The mood you carry for the first half-hour after you wake up energizes or dooms your day at different levels. It reflects so much in everything you do. So make sure your precious first hour is at heartsease.
My personal experience of not looking at my phone at least an hour after I wake up has brought me phenomenal personality changes. I have shifted my mindset to not look at my phone in the morning and believe me that is one of the best decisions I have ever taken towards a digital detox and digital minimalism.
2.Embrace Your Body Mindset. You are not flawed.
Own your magic. Study the science of your body and take full control of very fiber that you are made up of. You are perceived in “n number of different ways to n number of people around”.It is not necessary that your negative perception about your own body is also how others perceive you. Do not set standards for yourself by comparing yourself to others. But you should definitely work towards gaining better strength and health by recharging your body , give your body what it needs and take away what it does not.
Have you ever seen the most powerful and impactful people in history ever showed an insecurity about their looks and have your heard anyone talking about their body instead of their achievements?That is because these powerful people own their magic , embrace their body and trust they are not flawed but are made unique to look a certain way and thats perfectly alright. Always remember "confidence" is your best ootd (Outfit Of The Day) and "smile" is your best make up.
3. Tomorrow is unpredictable Mindset.
Nobody in the world can ever predict what will happen tomorrow. It might sound pretty cliche when we say “live in the moment” or ‘live everyday like it is your last day”. But have you ever got to a point where I have wasted so many years worrying about things that are immaterial to me right now or delayed working on something that you wanted to , just because you have 3 to 4 more decades of life in hand?. We always count the days to come , but fail to see the days that are gone and will never come back.
Instilling an attitude of doing 3 things everyday that you want to do and doing it right away without excuses will increase your will power , adjust your level of procrastination , feed your brain with contentment. Because you never know about tomorrow , if you want to do it , at least leap from "thoughts" to small set of "actions" right today.
4. Friendships Vs Expectations Mindset.
We all have friends , some just friends , some good friends and some best friends. We have different expectations from different set of friends. If you expect the same from all three sets you will end up getting disappointed. And especially when you expect things in silence and wait for the magic to happen. You have to voice out expectations and draw a fine line. With best friends, we always want may be a little less than equal reciprocation and we definitely get disappointed if that does not happen , You can voice out your opinion and hurt to your best friend.
It is definitely different when you have some extreme expectations , you will have to introspect if you are asking for too much. For some friends , the reciprocation is not too important and it should not be for you as well. We all come from different backgrounds and surroundings , so somebody will do something only if they want to do , not just because you want them to do. So shift your mindset to "let me do my thing and let others do their thing" , but help each other when required. When you keep it light you will never go into an un-enchanted mode of disappointment.
5. Flip the Script Mindset.
Filtering Thoughts : You magnify the negative aspects of a situation and filter out all of the positive ones. Instead flip it and just see only the positive aspects.
Personalizing: When something around you is unpleasant or something bad happens, you make it about yourself. Instead flip the thought and say it to yourself that not everything in this world is about you and happens only to you.
Catastrophizing: You automatically anticipate the worst. When you think about the worst that is going to happen all the time , You will attach every disappointing element to that thought and intensify your mood. Instead flip that thought and think about the best you can get out of any worst situation.
Outfit by : Pastels and Pink.
Here is the First post of 2020. I will be pushing on more useful , mindful, inspirational , motivational and personality development content to the blog. I appreciate all those who read my blogs and write back to me. I just cannot thank enough for this support and my digitally growing family. For me this blog is more important than any other social media pages I own. I hope you guys will like today’s blog post. Below are the “ 5 Things To Leave Behind In 2020”.
1. Use of Plastic
The World is changing , one part of the world is working very hard to raise the globe temperatures, to multiply the forest fires and contaminate the ocean life. The other part is working towards a clean , non toxic and non life threatening practices to avoid using non biodegradable materials like plastic trying to balance and cool down the blazing global warming that can soon turn half of the planet to debris. Choose your side , Choose your future , Choose your future generations prosperity, Stop using plastic as much as you can. If you stop using it , they will stop making it.
2. Extreme Consumerism
Every day, each of us is bombarded with around 1,600 commercial messages. Most of them are extremely manipulative , they make us believe and build a perspective over a product that we may not actually need , but are attracted to its presentation.
Adopt conscious consumerism , accept the difference between need and want. Buy only those things that need at the moment or in the near future.
3. Not Practicing Mindfulness
But first , what is mindfulness ? . It is our ability to be fully present in the moment , with the person we are talking to , feeling the magical sounds of everyday chores , when your feet touches the ground every time it is important to reach to the magical bond of earthing , sensing your own deep breathes , listening to a conversation with an undivided attention , feeling your fingers when your typing on a laptop etc. All these things are minute , but makes a lot of difference in your overall personality , It creates an aura around yourself. That makes a unique difference and brings you closer to the universe. Practice mindfulness everyday.
4. Not Shutting Down
Yes , not shutting down habits that are not contributing to any betterment or progress , not shutting down self doubt , not shutting down negative thoughts , not shutting down useless criticism and judgements , not shutting down procrastination and not shutting down toxicity ( be it in you or be it in others).Step up to change these things and do a complete shutdown to reset and restart on a fresh note.
5. Taking Social Media Too Seriously.
Any platform is created to connect , socialize , network , share knowledge , inspire , learn , create and have fun. But definitely not to set standards or rules about how your life should be , not to compare , not to rage each other , not to abuse privacy , not to overwhelm , not to overuse , not to invite unsafe situations. Have you ever landed in a situation where you love some quotes , but afraid to share them because somebody might relate to it and make a fuss in their mind that it could be about them. Such is an impact at a personal level. I myself took a step back sometimes , just to make sure I am not hurting anybody. But , we all have to stop taking social media personally. If it is a mere fun , have fun. If it is business , promote and reach audiences. If it is art , create more coz the world needs it. If it is for inspiring self and others , work more towards inspiring and lighting up more mindsets.
Thank you so much for reading. I will see you guys in the next blog post soon. Wishing you all a very Happy and Prosperous New Year.!
This is Shrithi, founder of The Chic Iconic. I am a minimalist , aesthetic and a positivist by nature. Along side I am an optimist , I transfigure my ideas, thoughts and tips into beautiful fairy tale moments and blog posts.