Not that it is going to be International Women's Day in a Couple of Days , But women should celebrate their strength and sisterhood everyday , So I wanted to put a boost-up blog post this time to make and feel you all empowered. There are so many assumptions about being a Independent woman. But in my opinion a woman is independent when she has a strong voice of her will , ideas and thoughts. Some body who has an opinion and strongly vocal about it when it comes to questioning her independence. Often people's understanding of what it is to be independent is quite surprising - changing your own car tyre , owning a car , getting to party on weekends with friends etc is considered Independence. The emotional and mental aspect of it is rarely included. So here are 5 personality traits to become a strong Independent woman of voice.
1. Embody Self - Confidence.
By far the most attractive thing about a woman is her self -confidence . Number one trait to be a strong independent woman. Know your strengths and play with them. Know your weaknesses and embrace them. You are complete set of positives and negatives, accept that truth. When somebody points at you in full respect about something they did not like in you or something that is hurtful accept it to mend your ways and say thanks to letting you know. Your self - confidence lies in how you handle your reaction to an event, May it be big or small. One of the highest personality traits and hard to train self . But draw a line for everything you consume emotionally.
2. Do not neglect the skills you acquired.
We all develop certain skills through our entire childhood and adulthood. Adore and hone your skills , do not neglect them. Being Independent and strong is trying to have your own flavor and recipe of character , which means trying to be unique. Our skills vary and every skill is a unique trait about yourself - like cooking , painting , financial management , perfect homemaking , amazing mathematical skills or perfect career orientation. Anything and everything that makes you you and not anybody else. Always have a unique factor , try building more if you can.
3. Be Anti - drama not Anti - Social.
Yes you heard me right. Women are stereo -typed to be drama queens. But most of the classy , strong , independent women we idolize are Anti - drama creating personalities. Not that I am trying to knock off the emotional side of it , but creating drama about everything we want or how we want things to be done is huge downside of a strong personality. Instead put your case down to discuss and open for opinions with your partner. Socialize with your friends without creating drama and do not put your mental balance at stake when you can actually sort things and work it out just by articulating them the right way.
4. Do not say n't Words.
How many times have you said can't , won't, shouldn't or any other negative contraction?. Stop saying that from today. When you say something like " I can't do this myself" , "I don't have the skills" you are pre-programming your brain to believe in a sentence that you have uttered in haste. Remember your brain is the greatest computer and it stores everything in the subconscious part of it. Instead say " How can I do this?". Always end your insecurity with a curious question , leave your brain to figure out the curiosity. This one step paves way to achieve your goals without any pull backs.
5. Be Assertive .
Again , this is one of the strong personality traits that prove you are a strong woman. So talking about being assertive , it is just a simple two key-word process - "yes or No" and knowing when to use them exactly. Let us take a scenario - You are invited to a party or a social gathering and you have to just answer the host with a "yes" or a "no". Instead most of us do this "we say 'yes' just because everybody else did , even when our priorities were different at that time" or "we say 'yes' with FOMO ( Fear of Missing out ) even when you have no mood to attend" or " we say 'no' even when we wanted to go enjoy the party just because one of your friends is not attending and she said no". So the thing here is not knowing what you want and putting other's priorities infront of you. Your 'Yes' or 'No' should be solely dependent on you. Know what you want and do what has to be done. Do not follow the herd.
So thats it for today's blogpost guys. I hope you all are little boosted up to build yourself a strong personality. Happy women's Day in Advance. I will see you all guys in this space very soon with another blogpost.
Till then , The Chic Iconic Signing off..........
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This is Shrithi, founder of The Chic Iconic. I am a minimalist , aesthetic and a positivist by nature. Along side I am an optimist , I transfigure my ideas, thoughts and tips into beautiful fairy tale moments and blog posts.