Bonjour Ladies. How have you been doing so far? I have been strictly writing lifestyle , mental health and positivity posts , I have found this space is kind of sense of emergency for the kind of toxic lifestyle that we are heading to, for the kind of fast paced lifestyle the current generation is transitioning into , it is necessary that we manifest some of the old school habits and realize what we are missing to identify due to too much indulgence in social media. Not just social media for that matter , I would call it any kind of indulgence that can turn into an addiction. Any platform or medium or interface is made to help you learn new things and stop comparing , trying hard to mimic and feeling bad about what you do not have. Remember- "You are at your best , when you are yourself. By saying that I am trying to address a serious issue that some of my readers or followers wrote to me , about how some feel to have low self-esteem and self confidence about themselves when compared to a lot on social media.
There is a thing called mental diet which assimilates your character and your personality in a large scale.
So What is a mental diet?........
It is something you feed your mind with - Positive affirmations , books , meditation , positive conversations and thoughts. That is how you develop a positive attitude and a confident personality. So for those who work on computers a lot , G.I.G.O "Garbage in , Garbage out" , lets use it for the current purpose " Good in, Good Out". Try and eliminate all the negative thoughts that will hold you back and pull into past. Try ascending to become a complete positive person , this boosts your self esteem. Mental fitness is as much important as physical fitness. So below are the " 5 Key Practices that will help you build your self - confidence".
If I have to exaggerate build it to make it to the power of infinity , so that nothing or none can break it ever , how ever hard they try.
1. SELF - TALK POSITIVE AFFIRMATIONS.......
Speaking to yourself is the best and proven practice according to therapists. Speak positively to self and try to control your inner dialog. For example say things like these to self....
"I love my body"
"I can do this"
"I love my work space today"
"I am responsible"
Remember , we all have an inner voice that speaks constantly . Things that we do not want to say out loud , our inner voice speaks for it. So when we do that , make sure the inner voice speaks in a constructive and positive way. Your brain records what ever you speak to yourself. If you do not do it in a constructive way , your brain is by default wired to think about things that make you sad, unhappy , thus lowering your self esteem. So self -talk is like training your inner voice to talk things that only help you get over unnecessary baggage.
2. ANALYZING A POSITIVE ANGLE.......
This is something that might seem difficult or impossible or sometimes not so possible thing to do. But whenever you are in a situation , a discussion , an argument - the very first thing we do is to put our own perspective on table even if its welcomed or not. Now Consider this as a mathematical theorem. You have a statement and you analyze the proof of it step- by - step. Similarly when somebody says something , listen in quaint , observe and analyse the positive side of the statement ( which may be the other person's perspective) and you may not have to treat it negatively and provide your negation , Instead put what you feel in very positive words such that the other person also feels that you have a point. Then there can be a middle ground that can be taken. That way you feel more self - confident and your self respect can never be at stake since you tried to avoid a negative conversation all together.
3. ASSOCIATE WITH POSITIVE PEOPLE ........
The people you associate yourself with plays a major role in your success and it impacts your emotions in a broader angle. Decide to associate yourself with winners , positive and optimistic ones , who are climbing steps and reaching goals in their life. If you have somebody who is socially less active , but with abundance of logical , practical and positive sense in the group , do not ignore , because people who talk less at gatherings sometimes do so much in reality. That might be your sweet spot.
And then there is another decision you have to make. Avoid negative people at all cost. People who try to isolate , zone out , bully , create an event to let you down are by far the most insecure people and the primary source of unhappiness. Take a resolution for your self that you are going to have a stress free and negative people free life. Make up your mind and give your confidence a pat every time you do this. You become that self confident person who doesn't feed on and off on negativity.
4. PRACTICE GRATITUDE AND APPRECIATION......
Show your gratitude , feel extremely fortunate about all that you have and never feel disappointed about what you do not have. Because according to the most recent estimates, in 2013, 10.7 percent of the world's population lived on less than US$1.90 a day and yet I am sure some of them might be more happier than you are for different kind of reasons , for having a family or for having what they just have.
Appreciation - Now you can choose one of these things "Jealousy" or "Appreciation". When you have the heart of appreciating any beautiful thing you see ( a beautiful face, a beautiful dress or anything around you that is beautiful ) the first thought that should strike is to appreciate and not feel jealous and not spread toxic behavior. Now remember, true friends always appreciate and confront , I made it a practice till date to say it out loud if I see something beautiful , I would let that person know and appreciate about how I loved. You feed your mind with jealousy , you get a lot of negativity thus lowering your self confidence. Turning toxic with extreme jealousy is a manifestation of insecurities you have. It harms your self esteem and self - confidence. Do not let that happen. Love what have and appreciate what others have.
5. CONSTANTLY NURTURE POSITIVE BODY HEALTH......
Your body is the strongest form of self confidence you can ever have. Nurture it constantly by eating healthy and by regularly exercising. Your body should hold no toxins that can work as a catalyst for your stressful life. Make sure you flush them out with consistent work out routines. A person who exercises regularly feels more self-confident than a person who sits and watches television all evening.
Vince Lombardi once said, “Fatigue makes cowards of us all.”
Most of our negative emotions are due to poor health habits, insomnia , long working hours etc. Try to seek balance in life.
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